Orlovx5 wife shared.
I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true. This girl is also a real person, not a caricature of a cult member, and even if the ultimate result is a breakup, she deserves to be treated with compassion and respect.
They don't want to accept that someone can understand the doctrine and choose to reject it.
There's a ton of crazy in what we were taught all our lives. I'd suggest the essays.
When I was a teen, my first boyfriend was a convert and people would comment on that instead of how nice he was to me.